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觉得这片子其实不算是喜剧。

看到快最后时有点《当幸福来敲门》的感觉。

主人公只是个小人物，因为听女友说求婚先得征得岳父大人同意，于是费尽心机想博得岳父大人的好感，不料出师不利，开始了一个倒霉的周末。

看到他大闹飞机时，感觉很心酸。
其实只是处事方法与思维迥异，造成了夫婿之间的种种问题。但这种问题恰恰最难解决。

看到在拘留地测谎的环节时，为岳父大人感到一点悲哀。一个固执的老人，像他妻子说的：你觉得从来没人配得上你的Pam。听到女儿的真情电话表白，最后又放下自己的固执寻回未婚婿。用中国的一句老话就是可怜天下父母心。
其实如果刚开始就多一点宽容和理解，一切都不会越来越糟。

不知道是不是自己想复杂了。感觉这片子主题其实挺深刻，虽然不知道导演有没有想往深刻里挖掘。


自己的一点想法，不知道有没有人有同感。
没共鸣的人可以路过了，别喷~

The comic movie “Meet the Parents” is also a thought-provoking one. Instead of just keeping laughing and laughing, I think more about the main characters (Greg and Jack), prejudice, bias, the relations between children and parents, etc. Without a doubt, the comedy tries to tell us something serious in an easy way.

1. About Plot
This movie tells us a dramatic story of a couple of lovers and a visiting to the woman’s parents’ house in a humorous tone. The man whose name is Gaylord Greg Focker fell in love with the woman Pam Byrnes and he made up his mind to marry her. By listening to Pam and her sister’s phone call unintentionally, Greg realized that he should ask for her parents’ (especially her father’s) permission if he wants to marry her. So he prepared a lot for the visiting to her parents’ house.
However, Rome was not built in one day. Greg lost his parking which contained the rings for the propose to Pam during the flight to Pam’s parents’ home which led to the following series of bad consequences. It was clear that Pam’s father Jack didn’t like Greg at all. Greg’s profession is nurse, which lead to Jack’s prejudice; Greg did not like cats, which make Jack unhappy because he was fond of them; Jack even suspected that Greg took drugs just because he said something like ‘puff the magic dragon’ carelessly.
Fortunately, to meet viewers’ expectation, the film has a happy ending. At the end of the film, when Greg finally gave up and decided to leave, Pam’s father Jack was convinced and changed his attitude towards the lover of his daughter. Greg came to the family again and make the offer of marriage to Pam successfully.

2. About Gaylord Greg Focker
I share the same opinion with most of audiences that I like Greg very much. Although he seems to be a little bit stupid and slow in response, he is a truly reliable young guy as a husband as well as a son-in-law. This conclusion can be drawn from the scene in the movie that when Pam’s father made him promise to obey the rules so that he could be maintained in the trust circle, he just kept it in mind and followed it carefully.
What is the most important thing is that he loves Pam deeply, for he sacrificed a lot to try to gain appreciation from his future father-in-law. For instance, he got along as well as possible with the cat which he used to hate and received Jack’s polygraph test tamely (although it is unreasonable and impolite). Jack was very rude to Greg which we can observe from Jack’s behavior, like, he even did not allow Jack to use the toilet bowl. But Jack didn’t complain a word about these things because of his true love to Pam. What a frank and lovely man he is!

3. About Jack Byrnes
Besides Greg, I also have affection on the other main character Jack, the father of Pam. It is true that he is very rigid when judging his daughter’s boyfriend. However, I can tell that these were all resulted from his endless love towards his daughter. He fully prepared for a surprise for another daughter Deborah Byrnes’s wedding ceremony and cared a lot for Pam’s future life. He is like a mirror which reflects the depth of fathers’ love in the whole world. Jack also makes me think of my own father Simon who loves me very much. I am sure when I bring my boyfriend home one day in the future, he must be very picky too. Thinking about my father, I consider Jack a good father. I even feel pity for Jack for he would have to let his sweet daughter live with others in the future.

4. About Prejudice and Bias
In the movie, I am deeply impressed by the prejudice and bias in U.S. The social classes are divided clearly in U.S., which are the upper classes, the middle classes and the lower classes. The higher-class people have a prejudice against the lower-class people, which can be seen in many American films, novels and news reports. The only thing I dislike in the comedy is the obvious prejudice Jack showed to Greg. He thought that Greg was not a successful and industrious man because he was only a nurse; he invited Pam’s ex Kevin Rawley to home deliberately to make Jack embarrassed; he even investigated Jack’s background through CIA. I feel very sorry for this kind of bias which commonly exists all over the world, not only in China. I just wonder that why a person who earn money to make a living is prejudiced against just because his/her occupation is not ‘good’ enough ?

5. About Children and Parents
When talking about my opinion about the relationship between parents and their children, I’d like to talk about more my own experience and ideas. When I was living together with my parents, I always complain that they nearly controlled every aspect of my life and their rules almost extended to every corner of my own personal affairs. I was impatient about their suggestions or comments on my behaviors. However, as time goes by, as I grew up and apart my parents to attend the university, I miss them so much, even their strong controlling and rules. It is sort of weird, isn’t it? I finally know that it was a kind of true happiness when you have someone be around with you and care about you. So it is the love that combines our parents and us together firmly. Whatever they do and say is aimed to make us happy. Keep this in mind and cherish the time you are spending with your parents instead of regretting after losing them.

如果你和女/男友感情美满，准备修成正果，并且打算面见对方家长，那么这部电影一定要看，赶在见对方家长前看。

《拜见岳父大人》可谓集合了见家长的所有不正确姿势，提前看完记在心里，不要犯电影里犯过的错误，你得到另一半家里人的认可度会高一些。虽然中西文化之间有差异，但人性是共同的，见家长这种人生大事，多点准备总没错。

那么单身狗是不是不用看了呢？不是。看男主被岳父大人折磨到质壁分离，你会觉得单身也是一件乐事。你大可骄傲的说：活该，谁让你找了女朋友。

男主叫Focker ( 这不是个好名字，听起来很像Fucker “发克” ),男主准备跟女朋友Pam求婚，得知求婚必须要经过Pam父亲的同意，所以随着Pam一起回家拜见未来岳父大人。

为了给未来岳父留下一个好印象，男主为这次旅行做了精心的准备，将婚戒装在旅行箱里，还给未来岳父准备了礼物。如果说好的开始是成功的一半，那么坏的开始绝对是失败的三分之二。旅行箱不符合登机尺寸，导致装钻戒的旅行箱必须托运，结果下飞机时，发现航空公司搞丢了行李，好吧，这不是什么好兆头。

更糟的是，男主身上仅存的一件衣服还被机场的小婴儿吐了一身奶。男主就这样两手空空，带着一身酸臭味见到了未来岳父母。

亲切愉快的交谈开始了。

岳父：你开的是什么车？
男主：租的。（好吧，你这个穷鬼）

岳父：你做什么工作？
男主：护士。（男人当护士？？？）

岳父：喜欢猫吗？
男主：更喜欢狗一点。（竟然有人不喜欢猫）

岳母说，家里养的猫会把土挖的到处都是，所以岳父教会猫咪用马桶，然后，男主拿出了送岳父的礼物——装满土的花盆。（忘了说，为岳父准备的礼物没有托运，所以没有丢）猜猜辛苦教会猫咪上厕所的岳父会不会喜欢呢？

吃饭时男主打碎岳父母亲的骨灰盒，然后猫咪跑过去在骨灰里撒尿这件事就不提了。反正第一天就是糟糕透顶。不过和第二天的糟糕比起来，第一天的糟糕简直不值一提。到这里就不剧透了，去看电影吧，保证看完不想结婚，哦，不，是看完电影后觉得自家的岳父大人超可爱，相信你不会遇到比电影中更奇葩的岳父，如果遇到了，请一定留言给我。

通过这部电影，总结下见家长的8条准则（男生版）：

1.搞清楚未来岳父岳母真正喜欢什么，礼物要投其所好。
2.见面时注意衣着干净整齐，不要有异味，也不要喷很浓的香水。
3.不要过分讨好对方，跪舔会显得自己价值很低，但最起码的尊重要有。
4.不要扯谎，毕竟对方比你多活20几年，对你的小伎俩不说一眼看穿吧，两眼也能看穿。一旦他们觉得你不诚实，就会觉得你欺骗了他们的女儿。
5.提供力所能及的帮助，但不要逞强，做不到的事情不要答应，否则做不成功更难堪。
6.不要在女方父母家与女方发生关系，这会极大程度拉低好感度。
7.不要在女方家常住，最多两三天就赶紧走，住越久矛盾越多。
8.不管岳父怎么刁难，记得，你不是娶你岳父，你是娶他女儿。

有这8条法则加持，岳父喜欢你的可能性会大大提升哦，勇敢的去见未来岳父吧，祝你成功！

又一部青山经常提起的片子
(你看看这厮平常推荐的都是什么片子)
其实还是挺不错的
毕竟人BenStiller就是靠拍这种片子活着的
而且竟然还能拉到RobertDeNiro

话说GaylordMarthaFocker(你看这ZB名字取的)打算和女友结婚
不过听说能不能结婚的关键在于能不能讨好岳父
正逢大姨子结婚
于是来到女方家

从一上飞机开始噩梦就开始了
先是行李太大要托运
然后行李就被弄丢了
然后就是一系列的倒霉事
比如崩了岳父老妈的骨灰盒
之后打水球过于投入让新娘破了相
然后抽烟烧掉了女友前男友做的婚礼祭坛
用来充数的猫毁了家里的东西
总之极尽所能的搞笑

没什么思想与意义
就是看着爽

        要在好莱坞喜剧电影这片天地中闯出名堂，就必须想方设法花样翻新，创出自己的独门绝学。本•斯蒂勒的表演不像金•凯瑞那么张扬，他身材瘦小，总是一副郁郁不得志的压抑神情。他的脸活脱脱的就是一个受委屈的小媳妇，永远贴着“倒霉蛋”和“受气包”的标签。于是，当这个“小男人”遇到“狠角色”罗伯特•德尼罗时，他的“灾难”便注定要接二连三地降临。《拜见岳父大人》（2000）展现的就是这样的情景，影片让人领略到，婆媳之间的过招固然是不可理喻，翁婿之间的较量有时也是惊心动魄。
    斯蒂勒扮演的格雷鼓起勇气准备向心爱的女友求婚，但是浪漫的氛围被一个突如其来的电话搅乱。他必须先陪女友回家参加她妹妹的婚礼，顺便接受未来岳父的审核。还没踏入德尼罗的家门，在岳父大人强烈的气场辐射之下，他的一切就开始失控。在飞机场他装着钻戒的行李意外丢失，与龇牙咧嘴的空姐交涉也以他的失败告终。当他灰头土脸地来到女友位于纽约郊区的家，真正的麻烦才刚刚开始。
    在饭桌上，一向不善辞令的格雷为了博取两位老人的好感，不时地迸出几句幽默话，但结果都是适得其反，搞得气氛十分诡异。岳父大人看起来是个风度翩翩的园艺家，却对追求他女儿的人百般挑剔，总觉得没人配得上他心爱的大女儿。不仅如此，连那只宠物猫也对格雷充满着敌意。一连串既好气又好笑的事把格雷搞得手忙脚乱，霉运当头的他制造了一连串令人喷饭的糗事。
    影片最精彩之处是德尼罗与斯蒂勒两位主演之间迸发出的张力。德尼罗一向以饰演性格鲜明的黑帮人物而著称，他演起喜剧片来也毫不含糊。他扮演的岳父神情冷漠，喜怒不形于色，但具有非凡的控制力，轻而易举地将瑞格玩弄于股掌之中。这个冒失的未来女婿的一切都让他感到不爽，包括他的职业（护士），他的姓氏（“法克”），还有他的言谈举止。德尼罗真实的身份是一名中情局特工，因此甚至怀疑瑞格心怀不轨，给他戴上了测谎仪进行严刑拷问。
    斯蒂勒将这个看起来一无是处的男人演绎地十分传神。这个倒霉蛋也有暴发的时候，他在封闭的厕所里破口大骂，孰不知老爷子早就在厕所动了手脚，把他的行为看了个一清二楚。斯蒂勒小人得志的表情，配上一旁德尼罗想笑又尽力憋住的神情，让观众为之绝倒。他就是以这样一个小人物的形象，让人同情、惹人发笑，甚至放任观众幸灾乐祸。然而，小人物也有时来运转的一天，正是他的百折不挠和纯朴秉性，最终获得所有观众喜爱与认同。