居家男人

一个平静而失意的下午，任由电影感动。一个好的电影可能不在于带来多少欢笑，带来多少泪水，而在于它是多么的让人回味，并且难忘。《居家男人》推荐给拼尽了青春换取所谓成功，在摩天大厦下孤单，在地铁人海中拥挤，在泡吧喧嚣后落寞，把爱情与回忆交付拼搏的人们；可能你在宽敞的办公室内享受着成功的欢愉，可能你在迈向成功的路上欢欣鼓舞，也或许最惨的是你在茫茫黑暗的绝望中品味苦涩，都请你看看这部电影。看完之后会发现，有时候“成功”并不是我们所想像中的那样，我们对于“成功”的定义往往没有追随自己的内心，而是盲从了社会的庸俗标准。 而片中让人感到温馨而快乐的是，Jack在可能的另一种生活状态中，在Kate以及可爱的孩子Annie and Josh的陪伴下，又去追寻曾经的美好与平静。因为此时Jack明白了，真正的幸福来自内心的平静，而不是优越与炫耀，也不是金钱与地位，或许忙碌的我们应该看到，至少，获得那一下午的全身心的放松，与品尝自己拥有的。那里，应该有甜蜜的味道。 Kate在Jack找到新工作的时候，对他说过下面这感人的谈话。 Kate: When you got on that plane, I was sure it was over. I left the airport afraid I'd never see you again. And then you showed up the very next day. That was a good surprise. You know, I think about the decision you made... maybe I was being naive, but I believed that we would grow old together in this house. That we'd spend holidays here and have our grandchildren come visit us here. I had this image of us, all grey and wrinkly, and me working in the garden and you re-painting the deck. But things change. If you need this, Jack, if you really need this, I will take these kids from a life they love and I'll take myself from the only home we've ever shared together and I'll move wherever you need to go. I'll do that because I love you. I love you, and that's more important to me than our address. I choose us. 而Jack在飞机场追上要离开去Paris的Kate时候说: We have a house in Jersey. We have two kids, Annie and Josh. Annie's not much of a violin player, but she tries real hard. She's a little precocious, but that's only because she says what's on her mind. And when she smiles... And Josh, he has your eyes. He doesn't say much, but we know he's smart. He's always got his eyes open, he's always watching us. Sometimes you can look at him and you just know he's learning something new. It's like witnessing a miracle. The house is a mess but it's ours. After 122 more payments, it's going to be ours. And you, you're a non-profit lawyer. That's right, you're completely non-profit, but that doesn't seem to bother you. And we're in love. After 13 years of marriage we're still unbelievably in love. You won't even let me touch you until I've said it. I sing to you. Not all the time, but definitely on special occasions. We've dealt with our share of surprises and made a lot of sacrifices but we've stayed together. You see, you're a better person than I am. And it made me a better person to be around you. I don't know, maybe it was just all a dream. Maybe I went to bed one lonely night in December and I imagined it all. But I swear, nothing has ever felt more real. And if you get on that plane right now, it'll disappear forever. I know we could both go on with our lives and we'd both be fine, but I've seen what we could be like together. And I choose us. 当幸福与成功需要你抉择的时候，你一定要问问你自己，你想不想说出那句：I choose us.

2020年才看了这部传说中凯奇最好的温情片，结果看我让我觉得十分不舒服。

全片的基本逻辑是：在华尔街打拼的社会精英，一定是单身的没有老婆孩子的，也一定是滥交的，也一定是没有亲情的。相反，一个在乡下卖轮胎的则可以实现以上所有，生活充实有意义，因为亲情比一切都重要。

好，亲情比一切都重要，但是事业成功的人家庭一定不成功是什么逻辑？华尔街的社会精英为什么一定不能有家庭？在城里长大的孩子为什么一定比乡下孩子不幸福？挣钱越多为什么一定精神越空虚？

这些都是这部影片下意识回避的问题。而事实上事业家庭双丰收的人大有人在，大城市的孩子也不会比乡下孩子不幸。这本就不是一个鱼与熊掌的故事。

退一步来说，任何一个行业的精英能成功，首要条件都是要发自内心喜欢这个行当的。一个可以在华尔街做到president的精英，当然是喜欢干这件事的。人各有志，在大企业做高管，还是在乡下卖轮胎带孩子，萝卜白菜各有所爱，原本就不应该有高低贵贱之分。

所以黑人小哥，你凭什么把自己的价值观强加给Jack？